You’ve read the last three posts to seek “The answer” to all of your problems. Well, I will do my best, but if you are looking for a quick answer - you’re never going to find it.
Let me explain.
I love ASAP. Anyone around me knows this. But when it comes to recovery and healing - time is a key ingredient in your recovery.
Here are a few truths you need to embrace.
It took you a while to get where you are, it will take some time to leave.
You may be in Gods will right now - it’s called the wilderness.
If you’re ashamed, build a bridge and, get over it.
Here is what you do.
Get into community.
- One of the silent killers in burnout is shame. It makes you isolate, which makes everything worse. Being around people will feel exhausting at first — that’s normal.
- You’re not called to have deep, emotional conversations. Just be present. Sit in the room. Let life happen around you again. Isolation feeds burnout. Connection weakens it.
Talk to someone you trust.
- Not just anyone — someone with two qualifications: they can keep a secret, and they’ve walked through burnout and come out of it. You don’t need a spectator. You need a survivor. If you can’t find that person, hire one. Get a life coach or counselor and invest in your recovery. Your health is worth paying for.
What happened?
- Something flipped the switch. A financial crisis. A health scare. A relationship fracture. A leadership blowup.
- Find it. Name it. And stop building your whole life around surviving it. What started as a response to a moment has now become your lifestyle. That’s why you’re exhausted. It’s time to change the patterns.
Don’t be insane.
- Doing the same thing over and over and expecting different results isn’t perseverance — it’s self-sabotage. Stop repeating what broke you.
Delegate something — even if it’s temporary.
- Create breathing room. Hand off some responsibility, even if you think no one can do it like you. Guess what? They don’t have to. The world won’t burn because someone else did it at 80% instead of your 100%.
- Give yourself a week. A month. Space to reset your rhythms and return to health.
Take care of yourself.
- What bad habits are throwing gasoline on your burnout?Poor diet? No time with God? Weight gain? Escapism through pornography or entertainment? Cutting corners and living with compromised integrity?
- Now think in three lanes: Body. Soul. Spirit.
- Body: What’s one thing you can do today to improve your physical health? Walk. Drink water. Sleep. Start small but start.
- Soul: What do you need emotionally? Maybe it’s an hour alone with God. No phone. No fixing. Just resting in His presence.
- Spirit: Your mind is trying to solve everything. It can’t. Your spirit needs boundaries.
What limits are you putting on people’s access to your time, energy, and emotions so they can’t keep draining you?
- Burnout isn’t just exhaustion — it’s a warning sign that your life is out of alignment. Realign it.
You Don’t Address Grief and Loss
- Burnout often isn’t just exhaustion — it’s unresolved loss.
- Loss of:
- A dream that didn’t happen
- A season that ended
- A version of yourself you can’t be anymore
- A relationship or role that changed
- Before people can “fix” burnout, they often have to grieve what they lost.
Sometimes burnout is grief in disguise. You’re not just tired — you’re mourning something you never properly buried.
You Don’t Address Identity Drift
- A huge cause of burnout is when our doing outpaces our being.
- People burn out when:
- Their value comes from performance
- Their identity is too tied to ministry, work, or results
- Rest feels like failure
You talk about habits but not identity — who they believe they are if they stop producing.
Burnout often reveals that we built our identity on output instead of Sonship.
You Don’t Talk About Spiritual Attack or Strongholds
- Burnout isn’t always just emotional or physical. Some of it comes from:
- Oppression
- Condemnation
- Lies from the enemy
- Chronic spiritual striving instead of resting in grace
- Not everything is clinical — some things are spiritual warfare.
Sometimes burnout isn’t just exhaustion — it’s spiritual resistance. Discern what’s natural and what’s spiritual.
You Don’t Emphasize Permission to Rest
- You encourage delegation and self-care — but not permission.
- Some people won’t rest because they believe:
- God will be disappointed
- The church will fall apart
- Everything depends on them
- They don’t stop because they feel guilty.
If everything collapses when you rest, you were functioning as a god, not a servant.
You Don’t Address Time Rebuilding vs. Quick Fixes
- Don’ think, “If I try this for two weeks I should be good.”
- Reality: Burnout recovery takes time.
- You didn’t burn out in a week. You won’t recover in one either. Give yourself time.
You Give Up On Joy or Play
- Burned out people stop doing things that have nothing to do with productivity:
- Laughing
- Creating
- Enjoying life
- Play
- You talk about diet, God, boundaries — but not delight.
When was the last time you did something simply because you enjoyed it, not because it was useful?
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