In this post I want you to review the following and take note of any that are challenging you. Be honest with yourself. It’s just you and this blog right now. Are you dealing with any of these or any combination thereof? If you answer yes to any of them, then you have a better idea of where your burnout is coming from.
Perfectionism
- You will never be good enough, driving you to work harder.
Being a people pleaser
- To make everyone happy, you lose your identity.
Lack of support for workers, family, or social network.
- Various reasons why this may happen. But without a team, you’ll never make it.
They are taking on more than one can handle.
- This is usually indicative of poor time management, good stewardship of your energy, and the inability to say no.
Poor self-care
- Sacrifice of one's health to work more or harder.
Inability to emotionally handle pressure, stress, and rejection.
- Usually, these issues stem from our childhood, but if we were never taught how to handle rejections, pain, and stress - we don’t know how.
Fantasy worldview.
- In an effort to control one's world, they reject reality and replace it with their reality. One that suits them but doesn’t work.
Negative self-view or world view.
- This speaks to one's childhood and personal experience. When one bases their future on their past, they will usually gravitate to the worst their life has offered.
Consistent denial of reality.
- Unlike the fantasy worldview, one denies certain realities that cause a cascade effect in their physical and mental health and relationship networks.
Extreme self-focus, especially on weaknesses.
- Again, this is the result of living in the past. Rather than practicing self-forgiveness and honest evaluation (you are weak in a specific area because you’re not good at it), we rehearse the failure rather than learn from it.
Overvaluation of one's self.
- Having confidence is a good thing, but when you think you can do no wrong, you create a false reality of denial that must be enforced by anger.
Fear of losing control
- A common fear among people. Without an honest assessment of what you have control over, some control over, and no control over, you are doomed to try to control everyone and everything.
Fear of rejecting
- This speaks to why some individuals are people pleasers, but this speaks more to one's self-esteem because it is based on opinion, not honest reality.
Imposter syndrome
- A fear that people will find out who you are. This can present itself in one of two ways (or both). You are afraid that people will discover something that you perceive about yourself (real or imagined) or people will discover something about you that is a fact (e.g., a crime or failure of integrity)
Focusing on the wrong things
- There are a host of reasons why this can happen. But in the end, stress is caused because you are either pursuing the incorrect items or pursuing nothing passionately.
Conflict of various roles - Father, Husband, Pastor, etc.
- This usually speaks to one's childhood experiences or one's inability to make personal decisions about their role (thus capitulating to popular opinion or people-pleasing techniques (e.g., doing whatever you need to please your spouse or kids)
Attacks to credibility
- Whether out of malice or need to control, some people need to attack our credibility for their own needs. Thus, causing a host of problems within a family or organization.
Prolong stress
- While we have a love/hate relationship with stress. We know that overexposure to its effects can lead to disillusionment and depression.
Unclear job expectations
- Not unlike focusing on the wrong things, this results from a dysfunctional environment that is either incapable of knowing what they are doing or not capable of communicating it clearly.
Physical - Uncontrollable
- Some things are sudden, long-term, and out of our control. A long-term illness, a sudden death, or even a long-term financial crisis. These events can cause high levels of stress and, if not managed well, can lead to sudden burnout.
NOW READ THIS! If any of these are an issue in your life, don’t be ashamed. You’re normal, broken, but normal. You’ve got to get to the place where you admit this and embrace it. Believe me, forgiving yourself goes a lot farther than you think to recovering from burnout.
Now move on to part 3
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