"I Don’t Need a Coach."
I used to say that all the time.
But life has a funny way of changing your mind. Repeatedly.
The truth is, my issue wasn’t with coaching—it was with my ego. Somewhere along the way, I believed that needing a coach meant I was broken or incompetent. That admitting I needed help would tell the world I wasn’t enough.
But here’s what changed my mind:
I discovered that the most successful people—in business, sports, ministry, and life—rely on coaches. Not because they’re weak, but because they’re wise. They don’t hide the fact that they’ve needed help. In fact, they credit coaching as part of the reason they got where they are.
I learned that everyone is incomplete in some way. That feeling stuck isn’t rare—it’s human.
And I realized something crucial: if I was surrounding myself with people who only pointed out my flaws instead of cheering on my growth, I was hanging with the wrong crowd.
So, I got a coach.
It wasn’t what I expected.
It was better.
It was also harder. More uncomfortable. But never pointless.
That was four years ago, and I haven’t regretted it once. That doesn’t mean coaching has to last years—sometimes, a few months is all you need. It depends on how stuck you are. I was very stuck. Why? Ego. Fear of what people would think.
But what would my life look like if I hadn’t swallowed my pride and asked for help?
Honestly—I don’t even want to know.
If you’ve been thinking about coaching, let me help answer a few questions:
Why Do Coaches Charge Money?
Many coaches do this for a living. Some, like me, are co-vocational—pastors, leaders, entrepreneurs—who also coach because we’re passionate about helping people move forward. Coaching is part of how we serve, and also part of how we sustain our lives.
How Do I Find a Coach?
Start by asking trusted friends or colleagues. In larger companies, HR often has resources available. If you're working through a specific area, look for someone who specializes in it: marriage, finances, health, leadership, etc.
What Is a Life Coach, Anyway?
Life coaching helps you bridge the gap between where you are and where you want to be. Whether you’re stuck, overwhelmed, or simply ready to grow, a coach helps you gain clarity, build strategy, and stay accountable.
One of my mentors once said, “You are the expert on you.”
Coaches don’t give you the answers—they help you discover what you already know, and uncover what you didn’t realize was there.
Is Coaching Therapy?
No. Coaching is future-focused. Therapists help you heal the past. Coaches help you move forward. But a good coach will also let you know if something in your past is blocking your growth—and will encourage you to get the right support.
Can I Try Before I Commit?
Yes. Most coaches offer a free discovery session. It’s not just for you—it’s also for them. Coaching works best when both parties feel there’s a good fit. Don’t feel pressure to sign up right away. It’s okay to shop around.
I Don’t Think I Can Afford It.
Ask yourself: Can I afford not to?
Many coaches offer packages, discounts, or sliding scales. But here’s the truth—if you’re not willing to invest something, your coach will know you’re not fully committed. Real change always requires real skin in the game.
So… What Now?
Let me help you take the first step. No pressure, just a conversation. You might not need a coach forever—but you might need one right now.
You can become the best version of yourself—with a little help.
Your most productive days are probably ahead of you—not behind you.
You don’t have to know everything—but you do have to grow.
You’re not alone—unless you choose to stay that way.
Take the step.
You don’t need to be broken to ask for help.
You just need to be ready to move forward.
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